How to Stop Getting in Your Own Way and Finally Create the Life You Really Want
Oct 19, 2026
You have big dreams. You know you're capable of more. So why do you keep talking yourself out of the things you REALLY want?
Have you ever looked at your life and thought...
"I have SO much to be grateful for. So why do I still feel like I'm meant for MORE?"
More money.
More freedom.
Better relationships.
A successful business.
More time doing things that actually make you HAPPY.
Maybe you have a pretty great life already.
A family you love. A successful career. A home. Friends.
Accomplishments you're proud of.
But there's still that little voice telling you there's something MORE out there.
And then comes the guilt.
Shouldn't you just be happy with what you have?
Here's something I want every woman to understand.
You can be grateful for the life you have and still want a completely different one.
You are allowed to want BIG things.
You are allowed to change your mind about what you want your life to look like.
And you are absolutely allowed to go after something that makes you excited to get out of bed in the morning.
The question isn't whether you're allowed to want more.
The question is...
What's stopping you from going after it?
Why Smart, Successful Women Still Get in Their Own Way
Some of the women who struggle the most with confidence are also the smartest, most accomplished women you'll ever meet.
They manage businesses.
Raise families.
Build careers.
Solve problems.
Take care of everyone around them.
They're incredibly capable.
But when it comes to doing something BIG for themselves?
Suddenly, everything changes.
They start overthinking.
Second-guessing.
Worrying about what other people will think.
Wondering whether they're good enough.
They research.
They plan.
They buy another book.
They sign up for another training.
They tell themselves they'll take action when they feel more confident.
And months go by.
Sometimes years.
The problem isn't that these women aren't capable of creating the lives they want.
It's that they're waiting for confidence to show up before they do anything differently.
And that's where they get stuck.
The Biggest Confidence Mistake Women Make
Most women think confidence works like this:
First, you become confident.
Then, you take action.
Then, you get the results you want.
Sounds reasonable, right?
Except that's not how confidence works.
You don't suddenly wake up one morning feeling completely confident about starting a business, changing careers, setting boundaries, or making a major life change.
And you certainly don't need to feel fearless before you begin.
Confidence isn't something you have to find before you take action.
It's something you build THROUGH action.
Think about the last time you did something that scared you.
Maybe you started a new job.
Had a difficult conversation.
Tried something completely outside your comfort zone.
Were you confident before you did it?
Probably not.
But afterward?
You knew something you didn't know before.
You knew you could DO it.
And that knowledge changed how you thought about yourself.
That's how confidence begins to grow.
Not by waiting until you're ready.
But by discovering what you're capable of.
The Confidence Cycle: Believe → Take Action → Confidence → Believe Bigger
Here's the process I teach women who want to stop getting in their own way.
BELIEVE → TAKE ACTION → CONFIDENCE → BELIEVE BIGGER → NEXT ACTION → MORE CONFIDENCE.
And then you repeat it.
Again.
And again.
And again.
It starts with BELIEF.
You begin believing that something bigger might be possible for you.
Maybe you could make more money.
Maybe you could have a healthier relationship.
Maybe you could start the business you've been dreaming about.
Maybe you could finally become the woman you've always wanted to be.
You don't need to know exactly HOW it's going to happen.
You just need enough belief to consider that it could.
That belief creates the possibility of ACTION.
And when you take action, something powerful happens.
You begin building CONFIDENCE.
You discover that you can make decisions.
You can handle uncomfortable situations.
You can try new things.
You can survive mistakes, rejection, and disappointment.
And sometimes, you discover you're capable of things you never imagined.
That confidence changes what you believe is possible.
Suddenly, the dream that once seemed completely out of reach doesn't seem quite so impossible.
You begin to BELIEVE BIGGER.
Which leads to another action.
And MORE confidence.
And bigger beliefs.
That's how you create a life that once seemed impossible.
Not by waking up one morning as a completely different person.
But by repeatedly expanding what you believe you're capable of doing.
So Why Aren't More Women Doing It?
If the confidence cycle is so simple, why do so many smart, ambitious women stay stuck?
Because understanding how confidence works and actually putting it into practice are two VERY different things.
It's easy to believe in your dreams when you're feeling motivated.
It's easy to make plans when everything seems possible.
It's easy to tell yourself you're going to start doing things differently.
Until your brain gets involved.
"What if I fail?"
"What if people judge me?"
"What if I'm not good enough?"
"What if I make the wrong decision?"
And suddenly, that big dream doesn't feel quite so exciting.
It feels SCARY.
So you wait.
You tell yourself you need to think about it a little longer.
You convince yourself that now isn't the right time.
And before you know it, you're right back where you started.
Not because you don't want to change your life.
But because you haven't learned how to keep moving forward when your own thoughts are telling you to stop.
And THAT is what keeps so many women stuck.
Why Another Motivational Event Won't Change Your Life
Have you ever attended an amazing personal development event?
Or listened to a speaker who made you feel like you could conquer the WORLD?
You left feeling unstoppable.
You wrote down your goals.
You made big plans.
You were absolutely convinced that THIS TIME would be different.
And then Monday happened.
Work got busy.
The kids needed something.
You were exhausted.
And before you knew it, you were right back to your old routine.
Sound familiar?
I LOVE personal development.
I love big dreams.
I love that feeling of realizing how much more is possible.
But there's a huge difference between being inspired to change your life and actually changing it.
Inspiration can help you BELIEVE. But without ACTION, you never build the confidence that helps you believe in something BIGGER.
And that's why you can attend every seminar, read every book, and listen to every podcast and still find yourself stuck in the same place.
You're getting really good at feeling inspired.
But you're not creating the changes you want.
You have notebooks full of goals.
Ideas you never acted on.
Dreams you keep putting off.
And a growing frustration that you KNOW you're capable of more, but you can't seem to make it happen.
You don't need another motivational high.
You need to start doing something differently.
What Is Staying Stuck Actually Costing You?
We spend so much time worrying about what might happen if we take a chance.
What if the business fails?
What if I don't get the promotion?
What if the relationship doesn't improve?
What if I make a mistake?
But here's a question I want you to consider.
What happens if you DON'T take the chance?
What happens if another year goes by and nothing changes?
You're still thinking about starting that business.
Still wishing you made more money.
Still putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own.
Still waiting for the perfect time to do something that makes you happy.
What is that costing you?
Not just financially.
But in freedom.
Happiness.
Opportunities.
Experiences.
And time you'll never get back.
Imagine looking back five years from now and realizing you're still waiting to feel ready.
Still second-guessing yourself.
Still telling yourself that SOMEDAY you're going to do something about those dreams.
Is that really what you want?
Because here's something worth remembering.
Doing nothing is a decision, too.
And it has consequences.
What If You Stopped Getting in Your Own Way?
I want you to imagine something.
It's one year from today.
And your life looks different.
You're making decisions instead of second-guessing everything.
You're pursuing opportunities instead of talking yourself out of them.
You're setting boundaries.
You're going after the things you REALLY want.
You're creating more money, freedom, happiness, and success on YOUR terms.
And when something feels uncomfortable?
You don't automatically quit.
You know you can handle it.
Because you've started building confidence through action.
You've learned to believe in yourself a little more.
And that belief has led you to take bigger actions.
Which have created MORE confidence.
And even bigger possibilities.
Now imagine looking back and realizing that everything started with one decision.
You decided to stop getting in your own way.
What if you made that decision TODAY?
Knowing What to Do and Actually Doing It Are Two Different Things
Now you understand the confidence cycle.
Believe something is possible.
Take action.
Build confidence.
Believe bigger.
Repeat.
Sounds simple, right?
So why aren't you already doing it?
Because knowing how confidence works doesn't automatically mean you know how to put it into practice.
What happens when you don't believe your dream is possible?
What happens when your brain gives you 47 reasons not to take action?
What happens when you finally take a chance and things don't go the way you hoped?
How do you stop second-guessing yourself?
How do you follow through when you're uncomfortable?
And how do you keep moving forward when your old habits start pulling you backward?
THAT is where most women get stuck.
And that's exactly what I want to help you change.
Ready to Stop Overthinking and Start Making Things Happen?
If you've been waiting to feel confident enough to go after your dreams, I have something for you.
I'm hosting a FREE 5-Day Get Out of Your Own Way Confidence Challenge!
It's for ambitious women who KNOW they're capable of more but keep letting fear, self-doubt, and overthinking hold them back.
Over five powerful days, I'm going to help you start putting the confidence cycle into action in YOUR life.
Not just understanding why you've been stuck.
Learning how to start moving forward.
Not just dreaming about change.
Actually taking steps toward making it happen.
We'll work on the things that have been keeping you stuck so you can begin taking bold action toward something you REALLY want.
Maybe it's more money.
A better relationship.
A successful business.
A new career.
More freedom.
Or simply becoming the woman you know you're capable of being.
Whatever MORE looks like for you, it's time to stop putting it off.
Because I don't want you to spend another year wishing your life were different.
I want you to start making it different.
🔥 JOIN THE FREE 5-DAY GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY CONFIDENCE CHALLENGE!
November 9–13, 2026 | Daily at 3 PM ET
REGISTER FREE HERE:
https://www.rachaeljencks.com/
Your next chapter doesn't start when you finally feel confident.
It starts when you believe something bigger is possible and decide to do something about it.
Believe. Take Action. Build Confidence. Believe Bigger.
And just imagine where that could take you.
About Rachael Jencks
Rachael Jencks is a Confidence Coach, Certified Hypnotherapist, Attorney, CPA, MBA, entrepreneur, and mom of six. With more than 12 years of experience in confidence coaching, she helps ambitious women overcome self-doubt, stop overthinking, and take consistent action toward the lives they really want. Her coaching focuses on building confidence through belief, action, and real-life results so women can pursue bigger goals in their businesses, relationships, careers, and personal lives.
Learn more at: https://www.rachaeljencks.com/
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Rachael Lenzmeier Jencks
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